Ever wondered what to do in life?

 

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During my school life, I never really had an idea of what I wanted to do when I left school, some ideas were:

  • become a surf life saver,
  • become a ballerina for the Australian Ballet
  • and more …

After I left school and entered the job force, I read many books to try and find what career I really wanted to be in. None of these books gave me the answer. I wanted to be shown exactly what I should do!

It wasn’t until my late twenties where I started playing around with characters. I had no idea that I was going to turn it into a story but one thing led to another and out popped a story (actually it didn’t just magically happen, it took a good year to finish it and then another 1-2 years to lose it and rewrite it. And by lost I mean, my computer crashed)(important note – always back-up your work!)

Once I had my first child, I had the courage to publish my novel. Not just publish it, go on a 3 month marketing campaign to promote it. I discovered what I wanted to do as a career in life, write.

Ever since that journey into the unknown, a roller-coaster ride of emotions and experiences, I have never wanted anything more than to turn writing into my career.

I realised there is this big wide world that is ready to be explored and experienced and here I was in a small desk space, bored and feeling like this is all the world could offer me but once I started exploring my true passions in life, the world’s view expanded and grew and instead of feeling limitations placed upon me, I felt free.

It’s important to fight for your freedom and your passions. It’s also important to know that what you have right now, may not be what you want and to know that you can go on a journey, like I did to really discover where your true passions lie.

The great part is, instead of fumbling around in the dark, like I did as I self-taught myself everything about writing, I have online courses for you, which provide easy instructions to get you exactly what you want in life, freedom to do what you love.

Visit my online store here: https://store7784056.ecwid.com/#!/Melanie-Toyes-online-courses/c/18537002/offset=0&sort=normal

I would like to hear what your true passions in life are, by commenting in the comments below.

 

 

Letting go of anger

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For at least the past week, something has been happening. My very positive, happy demeanor has been deteriorating. Anger was inwardly building. Even on weekends,spent with my loved ones, I felt sad and depressed. I couldn’t shake that awful unhappy feeling, I couldn’t get out of it. I brushed it off, as I do, because that is not me. I am not like that. Every night, I have had dreams. Dreams where I knew there was a message trying to be conveyed. I wrote them all down when I woke up. Then two days ago, around midday I started getting major headaches. I never get headaches!

I started excerising in the past week, which provided an immediate happy effect yet soon died quickly after. I was clinging to anything and everything to try and stay in the happy boat but as soon as I left that space, my mood quickly returned.

So here I am 2.14 am in the morning. The second night this week I cannot sleep, when I was thinking how angry I was about a certain situation and then I realised how instead of blaming that person I should actually look at myself. I woke up and googled, how to release anger and found this excellent article for women: http://www.pmscomfort.com/pms-pmdd-symptoms/pms-pmdd-anger-management-techniques-for-women.aspx

But I still needed something more, so I went on Youtube and found this excellent guided meditation video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pk0Jeqcv5Q8

I took a notepad and pen and as the meditation began I wrote down everything that I was angry about. Throughout the meditation, I felt anxious. I let go of tears in release, I felt absolutely calm and then vulnerable and I am so grateful. I released it all and know right now, I feel better already. That tomorrow, I will return to me and that makes me feel so good.

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It’s amazing how the body responds when dealing with built-up anger, learn the signs and deal with it immediately, to return to you. Sending you good vibes for the week.

 

Sometimes life is fine but something doesn’t feel right

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You know when your life is good, real good and yet there is something inside, within you, this niggling feeling that may be something feels missing.

It’s probably nothing, but it’s keeping you on edge. You may be feeling a little bit angrier or frustrated or just tired.

Sometimes, when we don’t have an exact plan for our current future, we feel out of control and feeling out of control can be very overwhelming. Yet, if you are going through this, simply embrace it. Relax, don’t try to rush anything. Now is not the time. Notice the feeling, acknowledge it, then let the fear aspect of it go.

It’s very normal, this feeling and it is good to have, because it is forcing you to really stop and look at your life. May be you have been putting off a tough subject, of possibly finding a different job, or looking at a new career, or trying something new, however, a part of you is not sure how to even begin the process. Do you really want to look for a new job?

This is where it gets tricky. You can’t move forward because you are too scared to let go of your current circumstances. You actually seem to be unable to move at all or even think about it. Why? You have built up your life, your relationships and your emotions are all tied in this current life experience, if you do something differently, this will shake up that part of your world that is current and have to start the entire process all again.

Hence why, you are putting off the entire self-chat you need to have with yourself. In your self-chat, you never know, you may actually decide to stay in your current life path. On the other hand, you may decide to move on but you are not going to know until you take a moment, (a bit longer than a moment), may be 20 minutes to begin with (allow a good hour, just in case you need it), to ask yourself those big life questions, of whether or not you should make a change or not.

Until you do, you will feel that awful, out of control feeling that something is just not right. Make the time. Sit down in a quiet space and ask those big questions and answer with honesty. You don’t have to make any big decisions, you just need to work out if you want to stay in your current life path or change it?

It is important to know, there is no right or wrong answer.

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